Monday 25 May 2009


A lot of guys want to know how to deal with rejection. One
of the main keys to overcoming any sort of rejection,
whether it's with women or anything in your life, is to
truly accept that there is a?.. NEXT!

Let me explain. When it comes to women in the USA alone
there are approximately 60 million single women. For you
football fanatics, that equates to the equivalent of 857
sold out 70,000 capacity stadiums full of women in the USA
alone! Now we realize that all of them may not be up to
your standards, but I would be willing to bet you can find
a stadium full of women that are to your liking with those
kind of numbers.

What do I mean by "NEXT!"? Basically, every time you
approach a woman and she does not respond to you in a
positive manner literally see the word "NEXT!" in big bold
letters. And depending on how strong you feel you may even
say it out loud.

Just for now, try it out! Say the word OUT LOUD with some
feeling ??. NEXT! Feels pretty good, doesn't it? Feel free
to do it again and again with the picture of the last girl
who was too stupid to realize what she had in front of her
at the time!.... Ready?. NEXT!

Easier said than done, you may say, but truthfully it is a
fact. With thousands of single women in your area, why
would you be fixated on the one that is having a bad day
and has no clue how good it will be with you; how good her
life could have been if she had been lucky enough to spend
time with you. Therefore, you move forward and on to the
NEXT lucky girl.

If you can truly adopt this as a state of mind you will
find yourself approaching more women and not being so
afraid of her reacting to her bad day and blowing you off,
because any time a woman doesn't move towards going out
with you it has nothing to do with you, it has to do with
her and her issues. It could be as simple as her not
knowing what you bring to the table. It could be she just
got dumped by a real jerk and you have the same eyebrows
for all you know. It could be as complicated as her trying
to find her own identity. None of these excuses are your
problem. Don't make them your problem; simply see the
word?..NEXT! And move on.

Don't try to figure it out and don't try to make excuses as
to why she turned you down. And if you have any buddies who
will give you a hard time about the fact that she turned
you down then find new buddies. At least you have the
balls to approach her! Real friends will support you and
congratulate you for taking a shot and approaching her.

As a matter of fact, I congratulate you up front for your
courage and willingness to approach her and to go after
what you want.

Congratulations, you are significantly ahead of most of the
Nancy Boys in our society who are afraid to put themselves
out there and approach the women they're attracted to!


About the Author:

Phil Gilliam is the founder and president of AverageGuy,
Inc. and a published author. His goal is to positively
impact the lives of 1 million men through education and
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